It's been forever since I was last here... forgot the password! Don't ever get old.
But I'm back and would love to renew this place. So here's the question - for those of us afflicted with this love for women's silken underthings, is sex what happens with her or with her panties? Or is it both?
Growing up, long before I knew the glorious pleasures that women would add to my life, the answer was pretty simple. The difficulty later when I knew both kinds of sex was to choose between them. While enjoying the solitary pleasures a pair of silky panties can provide, I'd often think about how much better it would be if I could somehow introduce my lover to my secret love.
It worked the other way around as well - wondering as I basked in those glorious moments I shared with her, what new higher highs might be possible if only I were brave enough to bring my dark secret out in the open with her. But the risk of losing her always outweighed the potential gains - and so those were words left unspoken.
Sound familiar? Who of us has not wrestled with whether to shine a light onto the secret life we all lead - to risk it all in the hope that our lover would still love us once she knew how much we'd been lusting after - not another woman, but something she wears! Who hasn't been in a group where someone brought up a news story about some poor soul who'd been busted for stealing a pair (or more) of panties. Like me, did you wonder if you had laughed loudly enough to fit in... yet deep inside you felt the culprits shame and embarrassment?
Some lucky brothers have found a partner who not only accepts their panty mania, but have even incorporated it into their lives together. I do think that is the minority experience, and most of us are left to struggle how we are to make sense of a life where we must find ways to feed our secret lusts without being found out.
I've changed the masthead photo on this group because I think this one captures perfectly the dilemma. What a wickedly beautiful woman she is! Who would not have all manner of fantasy about how to spend an hour or day with her. But visitors to this site know there is another side to this picture - the complication delivered by the delicious, silky nylon briefs that cover her perfect bottom. So back to my initial question... is sex for us what happens with a pretty woman or what we also might do with her panties?
I'd love to hear your thoughts - how do you dealt with this dark duality? I must admit I'm at a loss.
INDY
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- A self confessed panty fetishist - who didn't ask for this gentle affliction, but who has made peace with himself. Looking forward to discuss panty fetishes with others.
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It is both for me. I came out to my lover about my secret love for panties. She was receptive at first. We even had a mindblowing pantied love-making session. But after a few weeks she grew very cold to the thought of my wearing panties. She wondered how I could have harbored this secret life for so many years. I've since gone back to the closet, keeping my collection of smooth, lacy, panties (and stockings, slips, camisoles. and slinky dresses) hidden.
So... we meet again. :-)
I wondered what happened to your blog. Glad to see that you're active with it again.
It is certainly both for me. Panties enhance a woman's body. I love the look of a skimpy sheer panty on a prominent pubis. I like the feel of her vulva under the the fabric whether she is shaved smooth or not. I have been open with lovers and friends about my fetish and it never surprizes me how many women share the fetish.
I have loved panties and other womens undies forever and can give them up for a short time but always keep coming (pun intended) back to them and in them. I'm hopeless, but never happier than in them.
nik
A friend sent me to your blog. So don't give up on it. I love guys in lingerie.
I really don't understand how in this day and age and considering your age, self confidence and wisdom that you would let the opportunity to experience sex with a woman, that includes your own panty fetish get away.
I mean, isn't it time that you let out your secret? The rewards and happiness you'll experience when you meet that woman that will embrace you and your fetish will beyond anything you may have experienced your entire life.
You don't have much longer. Do it now!
Interesting blog,I love your post about obsession.
Please come back and post some more! We want to hear about your panty obsession. :-)
It has always been both for me. As I grew up in the 60's women wore wonderful nylon panties with the double nylon gusset. The scent of the woman and the feel of her panties had me hooked from about the age of 12. We had a very attractive neighbor who would hang her sheer panties on the close line and after I pilfered a pair I was in heave smelling her scent on them along with the stimulation and it has carried over for the rest of my adulthood.
Sex is great but it doesn't control my life like panties do. Since puberty, panties were a compulsion for me; breaking into houses for them, stealing from laundry baskets, taking upskirt pictures. I had to have them and usualy in an illegal way. Getting cought meant getting a title and incarseration. But that didn't stop me. It's ruined my life and most everyone that knows me. I'm getting help now but not before getting in trouble again and ruining lives of people I love.
Hi! I'd love to hear any comments about "accidental" panty exposures. I'm forever obsessed with the embarrassed reaction to having undies exposed in public, especially by the wind or some funhouse gag. Indy said Steve discusses this in his group blog, but I've never figured out how to access it..even after joining his girdle group.
I have always loved lingerie but panties in particular. Ever since I can remember I have looked at catalogues of sexy underwear. I used to borrow my older sisters when very young and sniff them. then I would slip them on and rub myself. Even I hadn't matured enough to cum I got errotic pleasure without realising why.
Getting a girlfiend was the best! Our sex was good but borrowing her panties for masturbation was sheer extassy!!I used tobuy her some sexy lingerie for birthdays etc but I was always very clever in not staining them first.
Getting married to her eventually meant I had access every day to a fresh supply of masturbation materiel. silks, satins and lace WOW! Every style. French, Cami, high leg, bikini, thong, string, cruchless all got my attention.
I talked with her about my love of sexy undies and explained I found them a turn on on me as well as her. She played along to my surprise. But it fed my obsession. i wanted more. I started with Bra's (SO SEXY) tights and stockings with suspenders. Skirts and shoes, tops and wigs with makeup followed. I even went out dressed like atransvestite and some guy tried to pick me up.
Since then I have met up with other Tv's and have enjoyed mutual masturbation with them. i am not gay but love watching masturbating men dressed sexily in lovely panties and love being masturbated by other hands female or male as long as they are dressed in those sexy undies.
My obsession nearly finished my marriage so even though I still dress quite frequently do so without my wifes support.
This has left my blogging on the net and looking at porn. Sad I know but it is some form of substitute. However there is no substitute for sexy panties made of silk, satin and lace.
My love of sexy lingerie has lasted all my life and cannot see it waining at all. I think I will probably die wearing a pair!!
I've learned that there are different kinds of women, just like different kinds of men. Some women really have no interest in panties and sexy lingerie, and some love it. The ones who love it are the more adventurous and I absolutely love them.
PANTIES ARE AWSOME A PART OF LIFE I ENJOY..
This question has weighed with me all my life it sems, or pretty much all my life. In two of the significant relationships I had as a younger man, I used to have sex with the women with them wearing full-cut big stretch nylon panties (entry up the elasticated leg opening pulled to one side), although tolerated at first, my obvious need to have it like this, along with my fondling the panties during sex and pulling up the waistband eventually prompted frustration verging on annoyance in both cases. Both inevitably asked me if I could even do it without this aid to sex, I denied but I knew he real answer and I think they did too. I hated myself for it, I knew I'd lose them, but the urge is overwhelming. Towards the end of both relationships, one said " you're more interested in my panties than what's in them" - funny if it wasn't so true and tragic, the other said after I'd spent the session yanking the elastic and fiddling with the leg lacey edging, "you just fucked my panties, not me!". I lived alone for a while after that and indulged unreservedly on my own, had some happy days too. Remember waking up next to a large pair of pink nylon panties, a soft as I'd ever bought, real granny panties and felt so good as the sun shone through he window. But ultimately it's an unnatural state, I was lonely, people need people. So I formed another relationship, this one is probably the most understanding, but she has her limits as most people would. If she really knew the extent of my fetish she would be bothered I'm sure. So I'd categorise myslef as a Pantoid, I don't just like them as an addition, they are the focus, the difference between a Panty fancier and a Pantoid (my phrases). I would also add that the last thing I've ever wanted is gay sex ( nothing against gays, but not for me), but also unfortunately ambivalent towards hetrosex too, just want to fuck big panties. But I love my partner and would never hurt her for the world. All we have is each other Pantoids for support and friendship ( I hope).
I love the scent and feel of woman's panties ; drives me wild when I snif and lick wifes worn panties
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